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Conflict Is the Symptom, Not the Problem: Couples Therapy, Intensives, and the Power of Experiential Connection with Carole Cullen


Conflict Is the Symptom, Not the Problem: Couples Therapy, Intensives, and the Power of Experiential Connection with Carole Cullen

Published on April 23, 2026

What if the problem in your relationship isn’t the argument you keep having—but the pattern underneath it?

Therapist Carole Cullen explores how couples can move from disconnection to deeper intimacy using a mix of structured tools, emotional processing, and experiential learning.

Carole shares how she integrates the John Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), why traditional 50-minute sessions often fall short, and how immersive couples intensives can create breakthroughs in just a few days.

We also dive into her innovative membership model, The Work of Us, which combines therapy, community, and real-life experiences—from Pilates to equine-assisted learning—to help couples reconnect outside the therapy room.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same conflict loop, this episode will help you understand why—and what actually creates change.

 

Carole's Resources:

Website: https://mytherapistnc.org/

Couples Workshops: https://www.couplesworkshopsnc.com/

 

Brittani's Resources

Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠

IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠

Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠

Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠

 

Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠ 

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How to Relate

Grateful to have you! I'm Brittani, a relationship therapist, yogi, writer, runner, and latte lover. Each week you'll receive thought-provoking letters written to generate insights toward creating resilient, intimate, fulfilling relationships.

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